Motherhood: Why I Hope My Kids DON’T Have More Than I Did




There is an epidemic in our society today when it comes to parenting. Ask any parent what it is that they want for their kids and you’ll often hear this answer- “I just want MORE for my kids, More than I had. I just want them to have better than I did.”

In and of itself this statement can be good.

Do I hope that my kids learn to work hard, and love deeply, and live a joy filled life? YES, I do.

But, do I want MORE for my kids? NO, not in the way our society has taken it.

MORE education for my kids? Yes, I hope so.

MORE opportunities? Sure.

But, more often than not, this is not the way our society is living out this mentality as parents.

MORE lavish vacations. MORE extravagant birthday celebrations. MORE name brand clothes and expensive gifts. MORE brand new cars. MORE stuff.

MORE stuff to clutter their lives and their minds and confuse our kids about what is REALLY important.

I hope my kids DON’T have more than I did. Because the truth is, even though I didn’t have it all, we always had enough. Even though we didn’t get name brand clothes, we had clothes to wear. Even though we didn’t get to go on lavish vacation every summer, we made amazing memories and learned to enjoy the simpler things. Even though we didn’t have extravagant birthday parties each year, we had friends and family who surrounded us and you could bet on a homemade birthday cake from mom. Even though no one handed me the keys to a brand new car, I treasure the things I do have because I learned that anything worth having requires hard work.

Somewhere along the way, we as parents have bought into the lie that the MORE we give our kids the better life will be. More stuff, better stuff equals a less stressful, more joy filled life.

BUT, the truth is this, the MORE doesn’t matter. MORE stuff does our kids NO good.

And, the truth is, sometime we as parents buy into the lie for ourselves as well. I know I have.

At the end of our lives all the stuff will be gone and the ONLY thing that will matter is what we have done for eternity. The relationships we had with people. The love we showed. The help we gave. The truth of Jesus Christ that we shared.

The rest is rubbish. AND, in a world of MORE, I fear that we are teaching our kids and ourselves to cherish the rubbish more each day.

Let’s make a difference in our kids lives. Should we spoil them now and again? ABSOLUTELY. Should we give them MORE of our love? MORE of our attention? Should we pray that they love God and others MORE deeply? That they are able to give MORE generously? That they choose to live life with MORE hope and joy than we can ever imagine? YES!

Let’s give MORE to our kids. BUT, let’s make it the more that matters.
What do you say?

Matthew 6:19-20 “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal…”


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