Let me start off by saying this, if you are a momma who for whatever reason has decided to work full time or pursue a career instead of being a “stay at home mom” this is NOT a bash against you. I support you. I respect the fact that every mom gets to decide what is the best option for her own family. AND I think it is SO important for all of us moms to stick together rather than playing the comparison game.
BUT, with that being said, this post is for you mommas who in one way or another have made financial and career sacrifices in order to stay home and raise your babies.
Maybe for you, as for me, this means you have made the decision to forfeit your career for this phase of life so that daily you can raise your babies. Maybe, it means working a part time job rather than full time. Or maybe it means working a lesser job closer to home, rather than that better job farther away that requires more from you.
This is for you mommas who have ever wondered, as I have, is it worth it?
I have to admit there have been days as I sit here in my living room full of mismatched hand me down furniture that I have questioned. There have been days that I have thought maybe life would just be easier IF ONLY… If only I pursued my career, if only I worked that full time job- my family could have MORE, MORE toys, MORE vacations, MORE cash to spend, MORE STUFF, NICER stuff….
There have been days as I sat down to pay my stack of student loan bills for a dusty degree that’s sitting somewhere on a shelf unnoticed, that I thought maybe life would be easier. Maybe people would respect my job more, if you know I actually used that thing they call a degree.
In a world where career and position equal power, and more stuff, better stuff somehow “leads to happiness” I have found myself questioning.
SO, mom, if you have ever questioned, you are NOT alone.
But, every time I begin to question, here is what I am ever so assuredly reminded of. IT IS WORTH IT.
At the end of the day, the stuff doesn’t matter. A fancy house and an extravagant vacation can never make up for the investment you are making right now, the investment in the life of another human being.
The Lord continues to remind me to find contentment and joy in this phase of life. My friend if you have ever questioned, remember this, THIS IS JUST A PHASE. For most of us mom’s this phase of being home with babies all day is just a moment in time. It’s just a few years out of an entire life time. It’s just a small opportunity.
There will likely be a time where you will get to, or have to pursue your career if you so choose. And because of that, there will be a phase where you will get to take better vacations, or own nicer things, or have extra spending cash that you don’t have now.
BUT for now, find joy. FIND CONTENTMENT in this beautiful phase.
Choose contentment in your mismatched hand me down furniture…
And in your weekend camping trip instead of your dream trip to Hawaii…
And in your home that needs new paint, and trim, and a hundred other projects done but might just have to wait….
Find joy in the love you get to share with your babies everyday…
And in this job of changing diapers, and kissing booboos, and playing games…
KNOW that what you are doing today matters. It is more important than anything that a career, or a title, or all the extra cash in the world could give.
So, today, I challenge you, choose contentment. CHOOSE JOY.
What can you do today to find contentment in this phase of less? DO IT!
1 Timothy 6:6-7 “But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into the world and we can take nothing out of this world.”
Ecclesiastes 3:1 “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven.”